I know I’ve come a
long way and it’s never been as apparent to me as it is today. I’d like to share a little about my journey in getting here, if nothing else but to document it.
It’s more cryptic than specific but I think you’ll get the idea.
There is a time for everything. We all know that. And we’re
all reminded of it constantly in case we forget. But what no one tells you and
(sometimes you overlook yourself) is that the duration of this time is
different for everyone. No matter what people around you say and how odd you
may seem to the rest of the world, TAKE YOUR OWN TIME.
The ones who are quick to dole out unsolicited advice are
often those who have no clue what you’re going through. They move their lips
and make sounds because they have seen someone else do it in a different time,
at a different place, in a different context. If I had a rupee for each time
someone said to me, 'Just move on' or 'Get over it', I wouldn’t be typing this myself. I’d have
my assistant do it while I was sitting in my beach house downing some gin and
tonic and listening to Buddy Guy. And then I’d tell him to make me some dinner (Buddy
Guy, not the assistant). I’ve seen the very same people not only flog a dead
horse but also take it to the taxidermist to get it stuffed so that they can show
the world that their horse is still alive.
So, no! Don’t listen to anyone but that voice inside your
head. Someday you will be ready and that will be the day your conscience propels
you into motion. Or maybe it will work on you slowly every day and you will realise
it later, but until you do, don’t do anything that doesn’t make you feel like ‘you’.
I don’t know much and I own even less, but if there’s one
thing I do know and have is an unshakeable belief in the things that I feel and
know to be true. And my instinct has never failed me thus far. I’ve spent years
listening to people tell me what I should be doing and when I was younger, I
would tell them to shut up. Now, I’ve learned how to be a diplomat (not always
though!) and just listen, smile and nod my head in agreement. But I’m glad that
I followed my gut and stayed true to myself. My experiences are mine alone,
even though a million others may have the same ones… when I go through them,
they are only mine. They are my wounds to heal, my tears to cry, my smiles to
light up my face, my thoughts and actions to give me a sense of self-worth and
purpose or not, whatever the case may be. It’s all mine. And I wake up every
single day feeling like me and when I go to bed at night, I fall asleep as soon as
my head touches the pillow and I still feel like myself and no one else.
And what you go through is yours. So take your time and even
though you will have moments of doubt, and those will be plenty, and you may
wonder if things are working or not, don’t stop because at some point they will
start working and you will feel it and you WILL know. I know this much is true.
I’m glad I waited and followed my instinct.
But then again, this could also be considered unsolicited
advice so don’t listen to me… just do what you need to do for yourself, and
take your own time. Your own time.
7 comments:
That's one reason I don't tell a lot of friends / relatives *stuff* I'm struggling with...their unsolicited advise about what I should / shouldn't be doing drives me nuts. Usually, all I want is someone to listen while I speak out aloud, so I can hear myself, sort out things, and resolves *stuff* in my own way.
Great post, Cloud.
You hit the nail on the head GG!!
That's all anyone wants really -- just someone to listen.
The worst is when you're cribbing about how you still haven't been paid for some work you've done and your friends offer to lend you money! I hate that! I know their intentions are good but people should understand that we ask for help when we need it, otherwise we're just venting. I mean I don't offer to sleep with someone who's complaining to me about the lack of sex in their lives!
Wonderful...as always. Period.
Wise words. Thank you:)
Thank you Himanshu. How are you?
Pat, I did think of you as well while writing this post :) Shout out anytime you feel like venting. Hugs.
yeah, all we really want is someone to listen...
I'm a good listener if you ever need one :)
Hey Rhea! Thank you. We shall vent and listen over some vodka and tonic soon (and not to forget some crunchy bits of pork thrown in!).
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